It's not easy being green, as Kermit the frog would tell you. But what if being green is simply your nature? You can't change it, hide it, wish yourself into being something you're not. For the INFJ, it's not easy being a visionary, and this is often our blessing and our curse. We are visionaries … Continue reading The Visionary’s Curse
Takes 2 to Tango – The INFJ and the Narcissist
INFJs are extremely sensitive and empathetic, and so it shouldn't be a surprise that energy-sucking vampire (ESV) personalities are attracted to INJFs, who also have a great need to help people. Possibly the worst sort of ESV is the narcissist, and INFJs find themselves entangled in various sorts of relationships with them, from personal to … Continue reading Takes 2 to Tango – The INFJ and the Narcissist
An INFJ in a Strange Land
I've learned something about myself in the last year or so, which is potentially laudable all by itself, but this nugget of wisdom was actually something of a master key, unlocking several doors at once, and shining a light on many mysteries that had been just out of reach for so long. It started, as … Continue reading An INFJ in a Strange Land
The Making of a Pond
Let's start simple. You have an acquatic turtle that has grown from the size of a silver dollar to a small dinner plate, so the acquarium no longer cuts it. Buy a kiddie pool! Add some small goldfish for her to eat! Hmm, turtle keeps growing. Buy a bigger kiddie pool! And more goldfish! Add … Continue reading The Making of a Pond
Ok. I see what you did there, life. Yeah, you with the shifty eyes, glancing to and fro, searching for an alternative paradigm. Well, I can handle it.
I had traveled a long way already, or so I told myself. I had overcome obstacles insurmountable when viewed rationally, but inexorable when viewed as a condition of reality. My path had forked many times already, with each new crossroad a chance for panic and crisis, and redemption. Hindsight shows the obvious, that each path … Continue reading Crossroads
I was there…
I was there when you were born, though you don't remember. I was there every weekend to visit you so you wouldn't forget me. I was there for you even when it seemed like I wasn't. I was there with you at bedtime, sometimes. I was there for you in the beginning, and I am … Continue reading I was there…
Nephews and Ice Cream
Yep, they go together, like peas and carrots, only a lot cuter and yummier. When they come to visit, the nephews, and you throw in a visit to an ice cream parlor, hilarity ensues, with smiles, bursts of elated vocalizations, and nomming of ice cream. These times remind you of what's important in life, which … Continue reading Nephews and Ice Cream
What is a Flurgin?
When I was in middle and high school, my best friend Jason and I were inseparable, as best friends will be. Both headed towards careers in engineering, we would design and build concept airplanes out of balsa wood after track practice (we were both pole vaulters in high school), or just ride bikes together, or … Continue reading What is a Flurgin?
The concept of empathy is easy to describe, but, ironically, can only be understood if one has the capacity for it. It's at once the ability to project your experience outside of your self frame of reference, added to the ability to re-absorb the projected experience. It has a positive connotation in that empathy modifies … Continue reading Empathy